Your Existing Situation
Sensitive and understanding but under some strain; needs to unwind in the company of someone close to him. Seeks to express the need for identification in a sensitive and intimate atmosphere where esthetic or emotional delicacy can be protected and nurtured. Easily affected by his environment and readily moved by the emotions of others. Seeks congenial relationships and an occupation which will promote them.
Your Stress Sources
Feels unappreciated and finds the existing situation disagreeable. Wants personal recognition and the esteem of others to compensate for the lack of like-minded people with whom to ally himself and make himself more secure. His sensual self-restraint makes it difficult for him to give himself, but the resulting isolation leads to the urge to surrender and merge with another. This disturbs him as he regards such instincts as weaknesses to be overcome; only by not succumbing to them, he feels, can he withstand the difficulties of the situation. Wants to be valued as a desirable associate and admired for his personal qualities. Wishes to be independent, unhampered, and free from any limitation or restriction, other than those which he imposes of himself or by his own choice and decision. Wants freedom to follow his own convictions and principles, to achieve respect as an individual in his own right. Desires to avail himself of every possible opportunity without having to submit to limitations or restrictions.
Your Restrained Characteristics
Insists that his hopes and ideas are realistic, but needs reassurance and encouragement. Feels that things stand in his way, that circumstances are forcing him to compromise and forgo some pleasures for the time being. Feels cut off and unhappy because of the difficulty in achieving the essential degree of cooperation and harmony which he desires. Willing to become emotionally involved and able to achieve satisfaction through sexual activity, but tries to avoid conflict. Willing to participate and to allow himself to become involved, but tries to fend off conflict and disturbance in order to reduce tension. Egocentric and therefore quick to take offense, leaving him rather isolated in his attachments. Becomes distressed when his needs or desires are misunderstood and feels that he has no one to turn to or rely on.
Your Desired Objective
Seeks the determination and elasticity of will necessary to establish himself and to make himself independent despite the difficulties of his situation. Wants to overcome opposition and achieve recognition. Seeks the determination and elasticity of will necessary to establish himself and to make himself independent despite the difficulties of his situation. Wants to overcome opposition and achieve recognition.
Your Actual Problem
Needs to be valued and respected as an exceptional individual, in order to increase his self-esteem and his feeling of personal worth. Resists mediocrity and sets himself high standards. Strongly resists outside influence and any interference with his freedom to make his own decisions and plans. Works to establish and strengthen his own position.
Your Actual Problem #2
Depleted vitality has created an intolerance for any further stimulation, or demands on his resources. This sense of powerlessness, combined with frustration that he cannot control events, subjects him to agitation, irritation, and acute distress. He tries to escape these by stubborn insistence on his own point of view, but the general condition of helplessness renders this often unsuccessful. Is therefore very sensitive to criticism and quick to take offense.